What Is Consent?


Consent is an unambiguous, affirmative and conscious decision by each person to engage in mutually agreed-upon sexual activity.


Consent is willing, positive cooperation in an act or the expression of a desire to engage in an activity. True consent isn't coerced by force, threats or intimidation. Silence is not consent.


Consent on one occasion doesn't mean consent has been given for future sexual activity. Consent can be given and withdrawn at any point, regardless of the nature of the relationship. Once consent is withdrawn, any activity must stop immediately.


Consent can NOT be given if a person is ...



Incapacitation is the physical and/or mental inability to make informed, rational judgments. Alcohol, drugs and other medications can cause incapacitation. States of incapacitation include, but are not limited to, vomiting, sleep, blackouts and unconsciousness.


Consent isn't given if a person is unable to understand the act due to a mental and/or physical impairment. No one is ever responsible for being victimized.

We believe and recognize that those who commit violence are responsible for their own behaviors and actions.


What are some ways to ask for consent?


Can I kiss you?

Is it OK if I …?

Does this feel good?

Do you want to go further?

Are you comfortable?

Can I … your …?

Do you like it when I …?

Are you OK with this?

Consent Examples